Human change is unpredictable and, in my experience, trying to force solutions doesn’t work for the long-term. 

The beauty of working with the lens of self-doubt is how we get to the heart of things very quickly. The challenge of working with self-doubt is that we don’t know what it’s going to uncover. 

This is deep and meaningful work.

Whilst the coaching model is helpful to structure the work, it is important for you to know that you are always in charge of the direction of the work. 

This means that we go where you want to go with it. You are welcome to share as much or as little as you want to with me. You are free to bring all of yourself to the relationship and we will not dig around in areas where you don’t want to go.

The guiding principle is that we welcome everything as it occurs, which means we also welcome resistance and allow it a place. 

This is NOT about achieving what you want…

Self-doubt will tell us a lot about what you want in life and what’s important to you. But this work is NOT about achieving that thing you want. It’s about what you can learn about yourself through living in the uncertainty of wanting that important something. 

To acknowledge what you REALLY want in life is to acknowledge that you don’t have it, and that you may never have it. The pain of this can be so great that we habitually sell ourselves short. Intead, we set short-term, superficial goals that we force ourselves to achieve.

And then when we achieve what it is we thought we wanted, we realise it’s not what we wanted after all.

You are already enough

When self-doubt mirrors what we want to achieve, it also magnifies those parts of ourselves that we consider not good enough to achieve those important things in life. We have passed judgement on these parts and excluded them.

The crux of this coaching is meeting these parts with compassion, recognising there is nothing to fix or change: welcoming and reincluding these parts in our lives.

Your inner resource

“You misunderstood me, I am not your weakness
I am the essence of you, I am your wholeness.”

(From my poem The Saviour)

Those parts we judged and excluded become a sustainable source of strength. We realise that everything we needed was already within us.

And then life becomes really interesting when we consider the question 

WHAT NEXT?

What does it mean to approach life from a resourced place that facilitates creativity and courage? 

We consider what can we do and, more importantly, what do we want now?