Olivia D'Silva
– life coach, writer, and poet.
Self-doubt has been my lifelong companion
I tried every motivational tool I could find to crush it, conquer it, overcome it. But self-doubt never stayed away for long.
This changed when, during a particularly challenging episode of self-doubt, I started to think about it differently. I asked myself, “Since self-doubt keeps hanging around, maybe it’s got a purpose?”
After I qualified as a Transformational Life Coach in 2017, I decided to explore this question through my practice.
I embarked upon an independent research project with a sample group of twenty clients delivering 130 hours of one-to-one coaching as I developed this approach.
Since then, I have delivered more than 500 hours of coaching supporting clients in their quest to welcome self-doubt as a powerful guide and bring more of their true selves to the world.
"Olivia is powerful, she intuitively knows how to get to the core of your personal needs and enables you to genuinely move through any blockers."
– Mariam, CEO/Entrepreneur
I committed to the practice
At the same time, I committed to the practice of welcoming self-doubt in my own life, allowing it to be my guide. And this journey has taken me to unexpected places.
I had an uncomfortable realisation when I noticed the presence of trauma in clients. In reality, it had always been there, I only recognised it because I had been doing my own trauma work.
This realisation caused me to step back from the work to consider how I could move forward. Whilst I was committed to the practice, I didn’t know if I had the capability to do this work.
I have delved into the field of trauma and found it a fascinating and rewarding human journey. I learned that the key to coaching and trauma is to develop trust with our own inner guide. We do this whilst acknowledging and including all the tricky parts of ourselves.
I realised that self-doubt is the portal that takes us into that space and brings us the opportunity to create this new relationship with ourselves.
As well as being an Associate Certified Coach (ACC) with the International Coach Federation, I have worked with modalities including Family Constellations, IOPT, and iRest® Yoga Nidra. Principles from these areas inform my approach.
My influences in this field include Julia Vaughan Smith, Vivian Broughton, Dr Richard Miller (iRest), Prof Franz Ruppert, Dr Gabor Mate, Dr Stephen Porges, & Deb Dana (amongst others).
In March 2021, I met the requirements to become an iRest® Yoga Nidra Level One Meditation Teacher. My approach integrates coaching and co-meditation techniques to tune in with the wisdom of the body.
A guide on a pathway
The way to heal an ugly mess
is to meet it with
your beauty and tenderness.
It's difficult to know this when
the shouting and the fighting
has perpetuated the perpetration.
Poetry
Discovering the power of poetry was an important turning point in my own healing journey.
I’d reached one of my lowest points, a time when self-doubt was at it’s highest. I felt blocked with this work and uncertain about how to move forward.
But I discovered that what I needed in that moment was not about moving forward at all. It was about stopping and connecting with the wonder that was already there.
I was writing with no particular aim and I noticed it was quite lyrical. So, I followed this instinct, and it developed into poetry. This has become such a rewarding journey and I continue to write poetry on a regular basis. (I’m even a member of a local poetry club!)
It was the practice of welcoming self-doubt that made me stop and take notice. It opened my creativity and put me in touch with this art that I never knew existed within me!
I believe that everyone has a unique creative contribution to bring to the world. And not only that; your unique contribution is what the world most needs from you.
I also believe that self-doubt can lead you towards that unique creative contribution.
The stillness of surrender
is an invitation to salvation
A window pane
cleaned of uninvited shame
A door creaking open
An unconditional welcome home
Come to rest
Be all of yourself
Know that you are safe
And that you belong.
Ready to welcome self-doubt?
Join The Doubters and begin this practice right away.
You will received a FREE 8 min meditation on welcoming self-doubt.
The Doubters is where I share regular inspiration and resources to support your self-doubt exploration.