(And why I dumped Simon Sinek) It was November 2019 when I saw tickets for Simon Sinek's Mindset Tour advertised.I didn't even hesitate to check the date, I logged on and bought a ticket immediately. I'd seen Simon in London earlier that year and was so excited about the opportunity to be inspired by him…
The final frontier of defensive survival strategies One of my favourite comedy characters is the schoolgirl Lauren Cooper who was portrayed by comedian Catherine Tait.Lauren's catchphrase was 'Look at my face, am I bothered?' (pronounced bovvered).Lauren bears an uncanny resemblance to myself as a schoolgirl. And I recognise this attitude as something I've been coming…
What would it be like to REALLY trust?Like, 100% trust that everything is going to work out?This is a question that I asked one of my case study clients during the trial coaching sessions when I began researching the purpose of self-doubt.My client, Jemima, was in her mid-thirties and a successful Project Manager in the…
The time in my life when I had my worst experience with self-doubt was while job hunting in a highly competitive post-recession job market. It was October 2010 and I had returned to England after living in France for three years. My husband and I had been living an idyllic lifestyle renovating a 200-year-old stone…
Learning to Hesitate and Tuning Your Intuition ‘I’m not ready’ seems like an unpopular thing to say these days. Over the last few years, while I’ve been laying the foundations for my coaching practice, I’ve said ‘I’m not ready’ quite a lot. The ‘I’m not ready’ has mostly been related to certain activities about selling…
How Does Self-Doubt Speak to You? Is it the presence in the pit of your stomach, the cramping ache, and the butterflies? Or perhaps it comes through the harsh and critical voices demanding to know what you’re doing and who on earth you think you are? Or maybe it’s the pressure of balancing that tightrope…
And the Tremendous Opportunity of Not Belonging The relationship between self-doubt and the Imposter Syndrome is something I’ve been asked about a number of times. People seem curious about whether it is the same thing, or whether there is a line when self-doubting can turn into the Impostor Syndrome. As a life coach who has…
When I made it my mission to find the purpose of self-doubt, I realised I was first of all going to have to understand precisely what self-doubt is. In the community of negative experiences, self-doubt has been particularly marginalised. For grief, we have a process to work through. Frustration and disappointment can motivate action. And depression…
Are you tired of battling with self-doubt? Have you found the mindset of 'boundless positivity' to be a relentless pursuit and an unachievable aim? If so, I want to tell you there's another way. You don't have to battle any longer; you can use self-doubt to make peace with yourself instead. Your attempts to crush…