How much are you looking forward to taking some time off over the Christmas holidays? But how much of a challenge do you find it to actually let go of the busy-ness? To properly relax and take it easy? It's at times like this that self-doubt can manifest in a really exhausting manner.If you find this a…
Maybe you're familiar with the struggle of trying to let go of something. Maybe it's fear, maybe it's resentment, maybe it's self-doubt. Whatever it is, you're acutely aware that it's getting in the way of you making progress and therefore, it's not welcome. Maybe you're in the middle of this struggle right now. Well, if…
I spent some time travelling last week and I listened a fascinating but disturbing podcast series about the self-help industry. Guru: The Dark Side of Enlightenment This is the story of self-help guru and motivational speaker James Arthur Ray who achieved fame, fortune, and influence through his teachings. His practice was about leading people to…
The challenges that self-doubt presents can bring us face to face with the greatest uncertainties in life.It is no wonder that when this space is not managed carefully that we can end up feeling overwhelmed and helpless.It's no wonder that we will often do anything we can to avoid coming face to face with these…
(And why I dumped Simon Sinek) It was November 2019 when I saw tickets for Simon Sinek's Mindset Tour advertised.I didn't even hesitate to check the date, I logged on and bought a ticket immediately. I'd seen Simon in London earlier that year and was so excited about the opportunity to be inspired by him…
The final frontier of defensive survival strategies One of my favourite comedy characters is the schoolgirl Lauren Cooper who was portrayed by comedian Catherine Tait.Lauren's catchphrase was 'Look at my face, am I bothered?' (pronounced bovvered).Lauren bears an uncanny resemblance to myself as a schoolgirl. And I recognise this attitude as something I've been coming…
What would it be like to REALLY trust?Like, 100% trust that everything is going to work out?This is a question that I asked one of my case study clients during the trial coaching sessions when I began researching the purpose of self-doubt.My client, Jemima, was in her mid-thirties and a successful Project Manager in the…
The time in my life when I had my worst experience with self-doubt was while job hunting in a highly competitive post-recession job market. It was October 2010 and I had returned to England after living in France for three years. My husband and I had been living an idyllic lifestyle renovating a 200-year-old stone…
Learning to Hesitate and Tuning Your Intuition ‘I’m not ready’ seems like an unpopular thing to say these days. Over the last few years, while I’ve been laying the foundations for my coaching practice, I’ve said ‘I’m not ready’ quite a lot. The ‘I’m not ready’ has mostly been related to certain activities about selling…
How Does Self-Doubt Speak to You? Is it the presence in the pit of your stomach, the cramping ache, and the butterflies? Or perhaps it comes through the harsh and critical voices demanding to know what you’re doing and who on earth you think you are? Or maybe it’s the pressure of balancing that tightrope…